1. Melinda;

    The idea of givers being selfish needs to be looked at. From the givers perspective, any time or recognition they take for themselves they feel is being selfish. But put it into perspective. You don’t have to compare yourself to others to see you give too much. You know that already.

    But there is no better analogy for the giver than the oxygen masks on an airline. If you don’t take care of yourself by putting your mask on first, you will not be able to take care of others that need you. At east come up for air once in a while.

    The other thing I ask volunteers to look at it is “How many different things do you give at, whether it be volunteering, at home, at work, where else?” I submit that being a giver is great. But the real fuel for a givers soul comes from giving at the right times, to the right people for the right things and in the right places. Many times people feel that if they give everything to everyone they will ultimately be appreciated (honestly, that is the logic, even though they won’t ask for the recognition).

    Pick something you are good at or want to try go with that. Don’t over extend your talents and stick with your core passions.

    Oh, by the way, you are still going to have to learn to say “No!” But this gets easier.

    Thank you for continuing the dialogue about this topic. It is so very important.

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